We just can't live without them
Some of our most challenging and
rewarding experiences as human beings come from our relationships with
others. From the casual nodding relations with people that live in our
town, to the full on complexities of familial relationships and all stations
in between, we all prefer it when our relationships work.
people seem to forget in our instant gratification world is :
Relationships take work!
Would there be so many divorces, so
many stay away fathers, so many relationship failures if we spent as much
time working at our relationships as we do watching TV, surfing the net and
facebooking, tweeting or what have you?
The only person that
really knows how much time and effort you give to making your relationships
work is you. The question is... is it enough?
can help you to work on your relationships with others by first working on
your relationship with yourself. Knowing who you are and what you
stand for at any given point in your evolution as an individual is of the
upper most importance if you are to create and maintain meaningful
relationships with others.
Relationships are in
a state of constant flux, moving, evolving, slipping and sliding in all
sorts of directions simultaneously. As such, the emphasis is upon the
participants in that relationship to be fully aware of their role within it.
Of course their are all sorts of duties and expectations upon people
in relationships. It is these unwritten rules that are the strength and the
weakness of the relationship. When they are shared and accepted with--
for the want of a better description-- good grace then the relationship is
strong. When they are used as tools for emotional guilt and control,
when they are the cause of resentments, then they are bad.
key question everybody should ask about his or her relationships is:
I more than I could be if I was not in this relationship? If the
yes then brilliant! If the answer is
then some key questions have to asked.
What do I need to do, or
not do, to enhance the quality of this relationship such that I am better
off in it rather than out of it? When the analysis is done, only
one question remains,
Am I prepared to take the required actions or
The Directed Mindsets approach to making
relationships work is to help you evaluate your relationship for yourself by
addressing the questions set out above. It may be that the requirements of
your relationship are such that you have evolved in a direction that is no
longer compatible with that relationship and you decide to let it fade.
It could equally be that you decide to take different actions that send the
relationship into a new and exciting direction.
Whatever you decide, Directed
Mindsets will be there for as long as you need.
To find out how you can improve your relationship with yourself and
others using directed mindsetting please
Many of the difficulties faced by couples
in their relationships are the result of the general get down and dirty
making a living, paying the mortgage, and doing what needs to be done to
make ends meet.
It's as if the very process of everyday living clogs up their relationship.
The Directed Mindsets approach is to help couples shift their focus slightly
so that they can unclog their relationship.
By taking time to remember the reasons why they got together in the
first place, and by using directed mindsetting, couples
are able to revamp their
relationships and evolve together.
Marriage/ Commitment Consultations
Because many couples coming
together for the first time have no real understanding of what lies ahead
for them, Directed Mindsets offers pre-relationship consultations to help
them consider ways they can keep their relationship fresh and interesting.
We recommend a series of 12 sessions- 6 joint and 6 individual- over the
10 weeks leading up to a marriage or commitment ceremony. And then on
an as and when basis.
To find out more please
Directed Mindsets Approach To Relationships
At Directed Mindsets we believe in finding ways to make relationships
work. As such separation, dissolution or divorce are only ever
considered as an absolute last
resort. If you are looking for a way into a smooth separation,
dissolution or divorce, then Directed Mindsets is probably not the place for
Of course, sometimes,
after a period of intense counselling, separation, dissolution or divorce are
necessary for the evolutionary wellbeing of those within a relationship. In such
cases Directed Mindsets will help to keep the process as painless as possible.
If your intent is to do
what's necessary to save your relationship, then we would love to help you
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